“The ‘reason’ is how you react; it’s what comes next….The qualities you gain or build upon in your most difficult of times are reason enough to struggle.”
Everything happens for a reason—this is the classic catch phrase for any bleak situation life can dish at you. When you’ve been knocked down and there is no other logical explanation, “everythinghappensforareason” is the only conclusion. Accepting this can be nearly impossible, but it may also be the only thing that keeps you going…so consider it.
First, we question. When crisis strikes, we painfully evaluate any and all details that might tell us why something unfavorable has occurred. “Why?!” “Why did this happen to me?” We despairingly look for answers everywhere, from ourselves, from others-OR we point blame. There has to be “a reason”, right? A single, specific reason? Bad things don’t just happen to happen though. They exist to make us stronger. The “reason” is how you react; it’s what comes next.
“A great person can pick up the pieces of any mess, evaluate them, feel and experience the emotions that arise, but then also move on.”
The overall experience of moving on serves quite a purpose. The qualities you gain or build upon in your most difficult of times are reason enough to struggle. This is how you build character, toughen your skin, and prepare yourself for anything that may come your way. If you truly believe that everything happens for some unknown reason, (and that that’s okay) and you open your mind to this mentality, the strength you exhibit will be exponential. A great person can pick up the pieces of any mess, evaluate them, feel and experience the emotions that arise, but then also move on. They know when it is time to put anger, despair, and jealousy aside in order to walk away.
I am not technically this person I describe to you. But I strive to be. This is who I want to be, especially now. I want (and need) to see light and hope. But even those obvious glimmers can be blocked so easily by doubt. Constant questioning and evaluation of our emotions, fogs our minds and halts any productivity. It’s optimism we need. It’s lacking in the world today, so pick it up and pass it on. Just because we are a society that is rapidly and amazingly advancing every second does not also mean that we should despair if we are not moving at that same fantastic rate. I came across this relevant quote the other day…“Today you are exactly where you are supposed to be. What happens tomorrow is up to you.” No matter what has happened or what you fear will happen, you are here. Now. You brought yourself to this point, good or bad, and it is fine. You can make changes or be stagnant, it’s up to you. Don’t over-analyze the path you’ve followed or try to turn back. Surge forward and be better than before.
“Today you are exactly where you are supposed to be. What happens tomorrow is up to you.” -Anonymous